Women On Trial

Respecting and Valuing Difference…

Women face a big enough struggle for equality without facing discrimination from their ‘sisters’. The global campaign for gender parity includes respecting and valuing difference; after all, the world would be a very boring place if we were all a bunch of Stepford Wives!

from Astral Society
There is a segment of society, committed stay-at-home mums, who vilify working mothers for not putting their families first. Likewise, there are professional women [with children] who scorn the stay-at-home mum using terms such as Earth Mother or Yummy Mummy as if they were dirty words.

The truth of the matter is that women make these parental choices for a whole raft of reasons: it may be financially motivated, it may be a simple case of emotional survival or that career pressure leaves them no option.

You can rest assured that neither set of women escape feelings of guilt.  Guilt that they are not spending enough quality time with their children versus guilt that they are not able to indulge their children with the luxuries a working mother might, and unless you have walked in their shoes you should not judge them.

Who amongst us has the right to say which is the better or correct path? Whichever path an individual chooses – and let’s not forget that there often is no alternative – they have the right to make that decision without fear of condemnation from others, male or female.