Is Valentine’s Day Harmful?

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Today, like millions of people globally, my husband and I will be celebrating Valentine’s Day. This will be the 33rd time we have observed this tradition, my husband (a true romantic) having proposed on our very first Valentine’s Day together. Despite our many ups and downs in those 33 years, we still place value in celebrating the milestones that make up our history together.

Many people consider Valentine ’s Day to be sentimental hype perpetuated by shops, restaurants and florists to increase sales in the post-Christmas lull. But in today’s digital world where a “Happy Birthday” on Facebook has replaced the personal touch of choosing a card specifically for someone and then taking the time to post it, I think Valentine’s Day is one tradition that society should try and hang on to. After all, is it too much to ask that we are tender and loving for just one day?

But can Valentine’s Day actually be harmful? For many the day just reminds them of what they consider to be their failure in not finding a mate.

For today at least, the world appears to be full of loved up couples and many people’s own sense of isolation and loneliness takes on overblown proportions. Statistically suicide attempts spike around holidays such a Valentine’s Day as do calls to helplines like The Samaritans.  Society still encourages us to believe that being part of a couple is the route to happiness whether this path ends in a lifetime together or not.

And what about those who are in relationships but whose partner puts minimum effort into the day or forgets it completely? A joint decision to not make a fuss it is fine, but if one of you is expecting more the disappointment can be bitter.  So if you can’t live without romance but it is simply not on your partner’s radar, perhaps its time to move on?

Do you throw yourself into Valentine’s Day celebrations or will you be home alone on the 14th February? Rebel In A Tutu would love to hear your stories…